You May Not Be Acting Out of Self Love

You May Not Be Acting Out of Self Love

Whatever it is that you are doing, simple or significant, if the motive behind that reason doesn’t center back to you then you may be living your life for others and not for yourself. 


Let me give you an example. If you are going to the gym because you are trying to build your revenge body, then you may be centering your fitness, health, well-being on the idea that it may get to the person-or people-that you are no longer with. I won’t deny that leaving a relationship, especially depending on how things ended, isn’t a good motivator to get into the gym or push harder if you’ve already been going. However, when the motive becomes about others i.e. getting back at someone, trying to get someone to regret how they treated you, or make them jealous, then you are not making your workouts about a lifestyle that’ll contribute to your well-being, and instead, are making it about someone else, who might not even be paying attention to you anyway…


Sure, you may feel like that revenge body is going to get back at someone, and that if that person showed you some sign of regret that it would make you feel better. But does that really do the job? Does someone else feeling bad about the decisions they made or didn’t make regarding you, bring you true happiness? Or does going to the gym because you enjoy the release, it improves your state of mind, you love feeling stronger every day bring you true happiness? 


Think about your motives for what you do in your day to day. If you are doing something, like the example above, and your reason has to do with something outside of you then you need to assess what you are putting out into the universe. And for my law of attraction friends, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If you are spending all this energy trying to get back at someone, they probably aren’t going to end up noticing you anyway, then you’re left with a feeling of frustration because of x, y, and z, and you continue to attract more events that will frustrate you from that point on.


I’ll give another example. If you’re someone who wants to attract a partner who cares about their health, but you aren’t taking care of yours, then what do you expect will happen? Say that you’re about to go on a date, and you spend a little more time getting ready than what you normally spend. You shower, wash your hair, scrub between each toe-I know, we are getting specific here-brush your teeth, floss, use mouthwash, clean behind your ears, etc. You do all this because you want to feel as fresh as possible, because it will make you feel good and first impressions matter, right? 


Well that’s correct but….If you do all of these things simply because you are going on a date, then you really aren’t doing all of the above out of love and respect for taking care of your body, and instead, for the purpose of the date, which is outside of you. I am not judging you and I have definitely, definitely, definitely been this person at a point in my life. But I want to be honest with you because I want you to live a life that you lead with ultimate self love. Make it about loving yourself and taking care of your body on a day to day, and not just because you are trying to get back at someone or going on a date. The Universe, God, Karma, (if you believe in it), pays attention to this sort of thing. 


Whatever reasons you have, and whatever it is that you do (no matter what “it” is), do it out of having self love and watch where that takes you. <3 


You can use the start of this affirmation to guide the way you think about your life:

I love myself enough to ____________________ because _______________________.  

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